Myths Women (Still) Believe About Men


 Hey there my savvy little Jipsies!

Okay, I wanna intro you to Marcus, if you haven’t already met.  I just adore this guy and how candid he is.  He’s funny, too…

I consider myself to be pretty smart and not easily fooled by the male species, but I learned a few things myself.  😉

Take a read and see what you learn!

xoxox -Urban Jipsie 


  By Straight Male Friend’s Marcus Osborne

Women offer other women an incredible amount of uninformed advice, misinformation and mythology about what motivates men whether they’re single, married, or in a long-term relationship. This was the impetus behind With all due respect, women simply don’t know as much about men as they think they do. And of course us poor guys know zilch about women.

Truth be told, I actually reached out to a handful of guys to guest write for SMF and the general response was, “What? Hell no! I’m not gonna be the one givin’ up the secrets!” So you see?  Your SMF’s are risking permanent expulsion from the “Man Club” by giving up the goods here. But we’ve got a job to do!

 To that end, we decided to tackle some fairly persistent man-myths. Now certainly there are exceptions to every rule. And, of course, you’ll have either experienced or have heard anecdotal stories that run contrary to your SMF’s perspectives. That said, here are:

The Top 5 Myths Women STILL Believe About Men

1.He won’t respect you if you have sex on the first date.

Truth is, it doesn’t matter if you do the bedroom boogie on date number one or one-hundred. Sex (or the act of withholding it) doesn’t equate to respect. Don’t fool yourself. Each situation is different and each person is different. If you’re making such a personal decision based on not what YOU want, but on what you believe the other person will think, you could be setting yourself up for a major disappointment.

 2. Men love the chase.

Guys just loooove working up the courage to approach a stranger and ask them out, risking rejection or humiliation. What’s not to enjoy about basically having to qualify for the opportunity to take someone out ? Doesn’t sound stressful at all.


 WOMEN love the chase. And why not? To be in a position where you can basically field offers from potential suitors. On that particular point, guys would switch places any day. It’s not that we love the chase…it’s that we have to chase.

 3. A man can’t be friends with a woman without wanting to have sex with her.

This one is always hotly debated among the fellas. But the consensus here is that the idea that men and women can’t be friends without sexual tension is pure hogwash. We certainly won’t pretend as if people can’t or don’t possibly find each other attractive, but that’s a far cry from wanting to get all coital. And listen, I surely have friends who I definitely wouldn’t mind taking out for a sexual test drive. On the other hand, I’ve got very close female friends with whom I couldn’t imagine being intimate in that way. So to say what comedian-turned-relationship-guru Steve Harvey said– that, “The only reason men are just friends with women is because that’s all she’ll allow” is just ignorant and short-sighted.
4.  Guys Prefer Something Left to the imagination.

Says who? Ok, do we love the way you look in that low cut top or those form fitting jeans? Yes. Do we love seeing you looking your sexy best as you step out of the shower wrapped in nothing but a towel? You know it. Do we get turned on seeing you get dolled up before a night on the town or maybe seeing you in your sexiest Vicki Secret? Hell yeah, you know we do. You know what we love MORE than that though?

Taking all of that stuff off of you.
Yeah, we like to IMAGINE you in your birthday suit, but we’d PREFER to SEE you in your birthday suit. I mean, come on….why has this ever even been in question?

  5.  Guys are intimidated by independent women.

Lots of guys are. But a lot of guys aren’t. This is another electric debate, but we say that this is generally not true; particularly for guys under the age of 40. Under 40 guys are more used to seeing, meeting, knowing, socializing with, and yes even dating powerful, independent women. Many guys wouldn’t have it any other way.

Now listen, no worthwhile guy doesn’t care about carrying his own weight or being his own man. And men want to be seen as good “providers.” But that’s a societal “guy thing” and it has less to do with actually feeling intimidated and more to do with feeling the angst of having other people judge them. A self-confident guy feels empowered and proud of his strong, independent partner not emasculated. So for us to buy into the “guys are afraid of independent women” myth, we’d have to buy that most guys lack self-confidence…and we don’t at all agree with that.


Things Women Do On Facebook That Guys Hate.


My social networking Jipsies….I know many of you are on Facebook…so how many of these offenses are YOU commiting? 

I think I may be guilty of a couple but I’ll plead the fifth on which ones.  😀


xoxox -Urban Jipsie



We asked dudes if there were any social network moves women make that drive them bonkers.

Their answer: Uh, yeah.

Here, real men share. How many of these crimes are you guilty of committing?

By Carolyn Kylstra

“I hate it when chicks turn into ‘spies’ and go digging into your older posts/pictures trying to find dirt, and then ask you about the women they don’t know. It’s as if they’re trying to catch you in some secret affair! Look, if it’s out there for you/all too see, I’m obviously not hiding anything!” –Mike, 32

“I cannot stand when women post thousands of goofy faced pictures — especially that fake puckered lips pose. It’s sooooo fake. Whatever happened to smiling?” –Cameron, 30

“No one wants to know how closely your life resembles the Jerry Springer show. Keep all those ugly details to yourself, please!” –Daniel, 34

“It’s a huge downer when women vent about men in their status updates — how we’re all liars and cheaters. It’s just not true! Cut it out, already!” –Al, 25

“I find it really lame when a girl has nothing but pictures of herself on her profile. It makes me think she has no friends. It seems kind of pathetic, and seriously vain.” –Raul, 24

“This one girl I was hooking up with changed her main profile picture to be a picture of the two of us together. It was way too soon — and I was still dating other girls, who had a lot of questions after that!” –Mike, 27

“What’s with girls posting pictures of their feet these days? Who wants to see gross toes in a picture of a nice pool or an ocean? It makes zero sense.” –Jesse, 28

Would You Sign a Singles’ Prenup?


Hello my marriage-minded Jipsies!

With the Royal Wedding having happened today…marriage and fairytales are heavily on the minds of millions.  As I was searching around for various articles, I came across this one regarding prenupts. 

Personally, I’m not really down with the whole idea…but then again, I come from a different kind of mindset.  I think to each, his own….nothing in life is ever cut and dry. 

Take a read Jipsies…think about your situation.  Did you sign one?  Would you? Any regrets either way?

Here’s to love…*clink*clink*

xoxoxo -Urban Jipsie

By Kerri Winick,

Jewel Landers and her boyfriend Chuck have been a committed couple for 23 years. They live together and have a financial routine.
“Chuck pays the household bills. He pays the mortgage. I pay for the cell phone bill and everything that comes into the house, except for the big-ticket items, like a refrigerator, the washer, the dryer,” says Jewel.

But the deed to the house is only in Chuck’s name. It’s something that concerns Jewel. She doesn’t want to end up in court if they go their separate ways.

Jewel’s relationship is going strong, but a recent survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) revealed a 48% increase in the number of couples duking it out in court. Now, a growing number are choosing to sign cohabitation agreements. They’re legally binding documents for couples that share a home, but aren’t hitched.


“It outlines their expectations for their relationship and also what happens in the event that the relationship ends, either by death, or by simply deciding they’re not going to live together anymore,” says Linda Lea Viken, President of the AAML.

Agreements can range from simple to complex, covering everything from medical decisions and health insurance to payment of debt and division of property. It really depends on the couple.

“What happens if you buy a house together? If I contribute to your house, that is, it’s in your name, but I add to it. I remodel it and I put in $20,000. Do I get that back if we break up?” asks Viken.

Related: Why Are So Many Smart Women Stupid About Men?

You can even divvy up your pets. The American Academy of Matrimonial Layers says it should all be discussed. That’s because, depending on the state, an unmarried couple can be treated as legal strangers. Cohabitation agreements not only prevent this, they prevent the financial and emotional turmoil that often results from heading to court.

Relationship coach Dr. Anne-Renee Testa says these agreements are a sign of the times. Over the past two decades, the number of unmarried couples living under the same roof has increased by more than 85%.

“Any couple that is interested in being intelligent about their relationship should do something like this because it absolutely clears the air. It creates an openness about their relationship.”

That’s why Dr. Testa believes a cohabitation agreement shouldn’t be viewed as a “negative.” She says it’s not about control, or about feeling as though the romance has been zapped.

Related: Are You a ‘Trainer Girlfriend’?

“If you know things up front, then you’re ahead of the game and you’re being smart and savvy. If anything, go out and have a glass of champagne afterwards and celebrate!” says Dr. Testa.

Jewel says Chuck hasn’t opened up to the idea of a cohabitation agreement yet, but she hopes he’ll change his mind.

“I think you need to protect yourself just in case something happens,” she says.

Is a singles prenup smart or insulting? Would you sign one?

Do Not Judge A Man By His Shoes

It is a long-held folklore that you can judge a man’s character by the shoes he wears. There is even a woman who claims to be a ‘professional shoe-ologist’; who believes a person’s character can be established by simply looking at their shoes, and has even written a book on the subject.

The book attempts to pass on tips for ‘reading’ people’s shoes and the simple shoe philosophy is that you can only love someone as much as you love your shoes. Perhaps it’s an extreme concept without foundation or maybe not, depending upon your point of view, but do people really make a statement with their choice of shoes?

Opting for comfort rather than style is obviously a choice, but an individual will not make the same decision every time. Most people possess a variety of footwear and will choose which to wear depending upon things such as the occasion and also matching their footwear to what they are wearing. So, when buying shoes or other footwear they will base their purchase based on a number of factors such as comfort, cost and convenience.

Despite this belief that shoes are the windows to an individual’s soul, there is no hard evidence to suggest that the wearer of a pair of expensive fashionable men’s shoes is more or less trustworthy than someone who wears a pair of tatty trainers. Indeed, the likelihood is that many men may well possess both a favourite pair of well-worn trainers and at least one smart pair of shoes, and which they wear will depend upon their mood and the occasion.

But, when buying shoes you should certainly make sure that they fit properly and are comfortable! If you have already not done so then get your feet accurately measured, not only to ensure the correct size but also the most comfortable width. Feet are as individual as the people they are attached to, and making sure that they are not squeezed into inappropriate footwear is important for health reasons, as well as comfort.

Also, cost is an important factor for most people when purchasing fashionable men’s shoes and in the age of the internet many more people are buying footwear without leaving home. There are plenty of online shoe shops which offer well-known footwear brands and because they don’t have to support a retail network many offer shoes at discounted prices compared to the high street. Whether you want your shoes to make a statement, or you’re only interested in cost and comfort, buying online can prove a smart move.

Isla Campbell is an online, freelance journalist and avid traveler and pilates devotee. When not on the road she lives on the outskirts of Oban.

Published in: on April 19, 2010 at 8:34 pm  Comments Off on Do Not Judge A Man By His Shoes  
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How to Woo Your Ex Boyfriend Back Using Sweet Words

Heeeeey Sexy Jipsies!!

Okay girls, time to get your whisper on!  Sweet words are your weapons so take a read and sharpen up…this found article will have you thinking twice about what seeps out of those glossy lips of yours.

xoxox -Jipsie

Words are powerful tools you can use to either harm or help people. You can use these to make someone either love or hate you.  By using the right words you can make someone admire you or even make someone obey every single word that you say. It’s a charm you can use to woo your ex boyfriend back. This is the best tool to lure your ex back into your loving arms.

When the time comes that you are ready to face your ex boyfriend, you need to be sure that you are over all the bitterness caused by the break up. You have to be okay with your situation because if there is still, even a bit, of bitterness, you risk saying the wrong thing to him, making him mad at you.

If you can’t help but still feel a bit of resentment towards your ex boyfriend, what you must do is to not show him that when you are talking to each other. Keep your emotions under control. Instead, be a smooth talker; be sweet. Use your charm and carefully choose the words you use so that he’ll feel great talking to you.

If you need to, compliment him about how great he looks. Or the car he has, or ask about what he’s been up to. You can even ask him if he is dating someone new already just to let him know that you are perfectly okay with the break up. This should make it easier for you to establish trust and confidence once again. Then, when you have him charmed with your words, you can now proceed to wooing your ex boyfriend back with your words.

You can also woo your ex boyfriend back through sweet word in text messages. A simple text message that says “how are you?” or “did you eat already?” are just simple words but would mean lot to him. It only shows that you still care and that somehow even after you guys broke up you are still concern about his well-being.

Though words can be used to woo you ex boyfriend back it is also very important that you don’t just say these loving words for the sake of getting him back. Be sure to mean every word that you say. The person you’ll be talking to is not a dummy and he’ll surely feel or notice if you don’t mean what you’re saying. If you are to compliment him then say what you really feel like saying and never exaggerate. Just be true to yourself and be truthful to what you are saying and you’re getting closer to getting him back.

Just broke up?

Getting your ex boyfriend back should be easy if you know that right words to say. Carefully choose what you say and how you talk to him and make him fall in love with you once again.

Published in: on June 11, 2009 at 8:28 pm  Comments Off on How to Woo Your Ex Boyfriend Back Using Sweet Words  
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